How do I know if I should unhide at work?
This is a common question I hear. It touches on personal identity, workplace dynamics, and living more openly. Deciding to unhide parts of your identity at work can be challenging but also very rewarding.
Based on insights from my speaking engagements and books, Singlehandedly and Unhide & Seek (forthcoming), here are five essential questions to consider before taking this courageous step:
1. Why Do I Want to Unhide? Think about your reasons. Are you looking for deeper connections, greater honesty, or just some relief from the burden of hiding? Understanding your reasons will help ground your decision and give you a clear purpose.
2. Is My Workplace Safe for Unhiding? Assess the environment. Is there a culture of acceptance and respect? Are there policies in place that protect against discrimination? Finding supportive elements in your workplace can help ensure your well-being as you unhide.
3. Who Can I Trust? Look for allies. Identify people who have shown themselves to be supportive and non-judgmental. Confiding in a trusted colleague or friend can provide a safe space to start the process of unhiding.
4. What Are the Potential Risks and Benefits? Think about the positive impact unhiding could have on your career, relationships, and personal well-being. Balancing these potential benefits against any possible challenges will help you make a more informed and confident decision.
5. How Can I Start Small? Begin with small steps. You don’t need to unhide everything at once. Start by sharing less vulnerable parts of yourself to gauge reactions and build confidence. This gradual approach can make the process more manageable and less daunting.
Hiding is a problem.
It’s exhausting. It’s lonely. It takes a toll on your mental and physical health and stifles your creativity. It leads to feelings of isolation and prevents you from forming connections with others. It leads to burnout.
In the workplace, hiding impacts retention, engagement, and innovation.
Creating a safe environment is essential for unhiding. Psychological safety fosters trust and openness, making it easier to share your best self without fear of judgment or retaliation.
Unhiding at work can lead to greater honesty, a greater sense of belonging, and enhanced well-being. By considering these questions, you can navigate this journey with care.
**And the good news is that the same holds true in your personal life; unhiding allows you to build more meaningful connections and truly thrive.
Connect with me directly to learn more about my work with leaders transforming organizational cultures where people can unhide, thrive, and belong. Join the Unhiding community, and share your story.
