Here’s why we’re not ready. And what has to happen first. Recently, I sat down for breakfast with a senior leader. I was feeling proud of the work I’ve been doing around unhiding and excited to share it. And then they said, as calmly as they could, “I don’t want anyone on my team unhiding…
Over the past few years, more than 1,100 people in my audiences have answered a question I ask when I speak. Many of those answers look like the postcards you see above. What are you hiding? If something came to mind when you read that question, you’re not alone. When I ask it in a…
Can I unhide something to you? I remember thinking, That’s what I do for a living. So… yes. They took a breath. My partner is sick. And I haven’t told anyone. Then they said something I’ll never forget. Because you’ve shared parts of your story, it made me look at what’s been holding me back.…
I thought I invented hiding. I didn’t have language for it. I just had strategies. Tucking part of me away. Blending in. Overcompensating. And I honestly thought I was alone. The only one hiding anything. Then, in a random Walgreens in New York City, I met a woman with the same little hand. We talked…
Hiding is how many of us learned to survive. Unhiding is how we learn to thrive without doing it all alone. Recently, a friend told me about the anxiety they felt around hosting people for the holidays. Not panic. Not drama. Just the constant mental math. Is it enough? Is it too much? Will…
A Moment You Might Recognize Last month, I sat in a meeting and felt that little push. You know the one. You feel the nudge. You know you should speak. And then you don’t. That old voice showed up for me. What if it sounds stupid? What if I am wrong? What if they judge…
